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Silver Linings (and updates!)

Posted in Activism, Gender Issues, Legal, LGBT Rights, News, Politics and Sex, Religion with tags , , , on March 15, 2010 by paigetsindfw

I found it! I found it! I found the elusive chimera, that rare creature thought to be mythological by so many for so long!

I found good news! Bless your heart, Andy Towle!

Take THAT, Pope Benedict Arnold

Some years ago I converted to Catholicism. I may have mentioned I’m a serious masochist before. But I’ll admit it; there are parts of the faith I suck at. Believing in hell for example. Never could pull that off. I’m more in line with what Company of Thieves says about such things. “We are all our own devil… and we make this world a hell.”

But one of the reasons I hopped on board and started participating as a lector in my church is the wonderful, loving, wise priest who listened to me and understood my need to confess. As a long time Vincentian monk, he was part of the really old school movement for social justice in the church, now being denied and shit on by the likes of Glenn Beck. When I say old school, I mean several centuries old, though he was also a huge proponent of Romero’s liberation theology.

True, I was politely asked to leave by the new priest after that wise man passed on. He was fine with me coming back to the church after transition, but not during. Couldn’t afford to alienate people. Make them uncomfortable. Services no longer required. I didn’t give up the faith though. Just the church.

And this is the church we’re probably used to hearing about nowadays. The church that kicks people out, decides who’s Christian and who isn’t, often while protecting pedophile priests. These things are both entirely real and, as my students might say, “some ol’ bulllllllshit”.

But by heaven, it is NOT all of us. When the Denver archdiocese removed a young girl from their school, not for being gay mind you, but for her PARENTS being a lesbian couple, Christians stood up. And they’re still standing up. They’re telling their own leadership that this is not Christlike. That this is not acceptable.

And I’ll be damned (likely for many reasons) if there isn’t more evidence of good people in community reaching out to do good things. As an update to previous posts on Mississippi and Utah respectively, we get examples of honesty and love being rewarded and hypocrisy being exposed.

Constance McMillen and ALL her peers will get their prom, due to a couple big donors, even as the facebook page created to support her and her girlfriend has garnered 250,000 followers.

And those fine upstanding gents in Utah who spend their days thinking up new and creative ways of strangling civil liberties? The pharisees out west are “shocked” and “stunned” by one of their own confessing to a skinny-dipping excursion some years ago with a minor.

I need to add a couple things here for balance. I know as a blogger I don’t really have a responsibility to be fair in the way journalists might. It’s just my own ethics that beg for at least lip service.

Truth is, if we believe people can change, that they can learn from mistakes, then I think any ethical adult would have to admit that there’s going to be more to this Utah story than the scandal. We need to listen to the grown woman’s story and his. We need to extend what we’re so often not given ourselves: the chance for forgiveness and healing. It seems like the world could use a lot more of that in general.

But it doesn’t necessarily mean we need to extend them legislative authority while a legitimate question about their ethics remains unanswered. I have no illusions of being voted in as Texas governor as a sex worker. Maybe Illinois governor, but not the Lone Star.

For now though, I’m just gonna bask in the fact that there’s still a great big chunk of hope out there, growing in the hearts of loving people, that we can all take a bite of. I’ve even given the flying monkeys the day off.

Cosmetic Changes

Posted in Gender Issues with tags , , , , on March 6, 2010 by paigetsindfw

When Queer Eye for the Straight Guy came out, made books, and eventually sent a few of its alumni on to things like the Food Network, it came at the tail end of an era that belonged to the “metrosexual”. You can still see them roaming around, but avoiding the label most of the time, just like many young women who refuse to call themselves feminists, despite supporting the subversive idea that a woman should be understood as equal to a man.

At the time, there were debates over whether or not this kind of program advanced broader acceptance of homosexuals or fed stereotypes as five lucky gays mined an endless treasure trove of straight male ignorance of things like hygiene and culture. I didn’t participate in these debates. I was too busy trying to understand how to “manscape” without getting razor burns.

Now there’s a new superteam of beautifully coifed queers and I have to sit up and take notice because I can already tell I’m going to be asked for my opinion (after walking in on hetero/cis friends laughing and marveling at this show, then nervously coughing). Now it’s a show with transwomen at the helm.

My guess is the Nicole Kidman lookalike in the center is struggling with lockjaw from a tragic encounter with a tetanus infected mascara brush. That or all three are posing for "Hear no butch, speak no butch, see no butch"

Jezebel.com reports that the show, called “TRANSform Me” (ha! Oh ha ha! GOOD one!), is much like Queer Eye without all that pesky stuff about culture, food, or decorating that interfered with us watching hetero men get fondled and primped by gay men. Look out, Judith Butler, the t-girls are gonna show Stella (and Amy and Janice and Betty) how to get her groove back.

And again, I didn’t know what to think. Part of me thought, well, alright, if this makes people like me less scary or subject to strange questions and groping from the cisgendered, then it can’t be that bad. Another part thought, I don’t care who’s hosting, I don’t see a need for another show about how women aren’t spending enough hours grooming and need to get back to their “real” job, which is to look pretty.

I could be accused of thinking too much, so here’s what decided me. First, this quote from VH1′s promotion:

“TRANSform Me is a makeover show in which a team of three transgender women, led by the inimitable Laverne Cox (I Want To Work For Diddy), rescues women from personal style purgatory.”

Anyone who qualifies for/uses/spreads the word “inimitable” should be executed. Besides, it literally means “could not be imitated” and the whole show is about women learning how to perform their own gender from women who have extra insight into the performance by virtue of performing a different gender for so long.

Second: I’m ugly and, as I get older, increasingly proud of it. It has its own allure. I transitioned some time ago, went through the phase where I was terrified of a single hair being out of place, and I can’t remember when I’ve ever seen a transperson in the mass media who wasn’t either a supermodel, a comedian, or both. I still dress in what many people would call a “feminine” style more often than not, but I am guilty of wearing jeans (NOT designer ones either), going out without makeup (most days now), and I have never exfoliated the soles of my feet. I’m fat, crude, snarly, bitter, toxic company … and there are STILL folks who pay me for acts as foul as I am.

Hell, I don’t even know if these transwomen are transvestites or transsexuals. I haven’t seen the show, so I should give it a shot. This time however, I won’t agonize over my inability to style hair or coax my pores into something tamer than a caldera. I’ll just send the flying monkeys out for more pizza.

“When does everybody start masturbating?”

Posted in Crazy/Funny, Gender Issues, Uncategorized, Videos with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 4, 2010 by Chase

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Better late than never?

Posted in Activism, Gender Issues, Legal, LGBT Rights with tags , , , on January 22, 2010 by finickymuse

The news Wednesday that Cindy McCain, wife of Arizona senator and Republican presidential candidate John McCain, is endorsing NoH8, the California-based equal marriage organization that was active in its opposition to the California’s anti-gay marriage Proposition 8, was welcomed by many in the equal marriage movement. Read more….

You Go… Guyfriend?

Posted in Gender Issues, Legal, News, Politics and Sex with tags , , , on January 15, 2010 by paigetsindfw

Equal opportunity in all professions may have just taken a big step forward in the last couple days when the “oldest” profession welcomed in a long suffering minority to its ranks.

Men.

And here he is!

Nevada's First, Legal, Male Prostitute (he prefers "gigolo", please)

He’s been profiled in Details and this story comes to us by way of The Huffington Post, the link for which is right here.

What they don’t mention here is that, until recently, despite prostitution being legal in Nevada (Las Vegas remains a bizarre exception. Just quit it, LV. That family friendly campaign went over like a lead enema bag.), the law was written in such a way that, probably unintentionally, forbade men from participating, because it made specific reference to organs men don’t generally have.

I doubt I’ll be the first to welcome him into the ranks, but with the Desiree Alliance conference coming up and lots of workin’ gals there, myself included, to talk about rights, activism, and other things, I’d still like to extend a warm handj… shake, handshake, to the new feller. He might want to stop comparing himself to Rosa Parks though. There are anilingus fetishists with better taste than that notion.

Now let’s get started on ensuring people of all genders, who DON’T want to work in a desert brothel, have the sexual freedom to decide for themselves who they’ll be intimate with, when, and if they’re willing to give it up for dinner or 300 an hour.

Did you fill out the Sexual Freedom Survey?

Posted in Activism, Feminist Sex, Gender Issues, Legal, LGBT Rights, Medical, News, Politics and Sex, porn, Religion, Sex Ed, Stuff to do with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on January 12, 2010 by girlonpiano

If not, YOU BETTER, or SiP will hunt you down and take away your sexy license.

Take the survey now!!!!

Let’s start the New Year off in a proactive way, by adding your voice to the Sexual Freedom Report!

This questionnaire will be the foundation for the first report on the State of Sexual Freedom in America today.  If you already responded to the questionnaire, and many of you have, thank you!  If not, we would really value your opinions!

As I shared with you in the first email, the Woodhull Freedom Foundation plans to publish regular reports on the sexual freedom movement, designed to help identify the social changes taking place, or that must take place for progress to be made, on the diverse issues on which we work. We are particularly interested in recognizing opportunities for already-established sexual freedom issue groups to work together.

We would like to know what you think are the most pressing sexual freedom issues this country is facing and so we are asking for a bit of your time and a lot of your knowledge and expertise.

We will treat your responses as confidential, unless you specifically give us permission to share your comments.  To protect the confidentiality of our participants, we will download the responses each day and they will be taken completely offline.  With that assurance, we are also asking that you provide your contact information on the survey.

I do hope that you’ll take some time right now to respond to the questionnaire.  What you think really does matter to us and to this project.

Please click here or at the link below to begin the survey.

Thanks for your time and your participation!

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Ricci Levy, Executive Director

PS:  Please make sure to give us an email address in the questionnaire so that we can email you a copy of the completed report immediately prior to its public release.

It’s not rape, it’s just a horny kid forcing sex on another kid.

Posted in Activism, Gender Issues, Legal, News, You Fucked Up! with tags , , , , on January 5, 2010 by girlonpiano

A 14 year old boy is accused of raping a twelve year old girl on school grounds, during school hours.

Here’s what site supervisor Mustapha Cannon has to say about it: “They’re calling it a rape when it wasn’t really a rape. When this is all over with I want to see if I can get a public apology for my principal, which is my friend, and my vice-principal, which is my friend who aren’t at work right now.  Some kids are not as popular as other kids.  You have a girl that’s not as popular as some of the girls.  You have a guy who is not as popular with some of the guys and the girls.  It was hormones gone wild.  There’s been plenty of incidents that happened that haven’t been reported as possible rapes or attempted rapes.  I think this is something that’s been worded the wrong way.” Read more

Here’s the video with his interview:Mustapha Cannon Rape Interview #2

Obama appoints a transwoman! Gobama!

Posted in Activism, Gender Issues, Legal, LGBT Rights, News, Politics and Sex with tags , , , , , , on January 5, 2010 by girlonpiano

“Amanda Simpson–formerly a test pilot, and formerly a man–started her new job today as senior technical advisor with the Department of Commerce’s Bureau of Industry and Security, which plays a key role in national security and cybersecurity. Unfortunately, most of the talk so far has been about Simpson’s sex change, not her career change.” Read more

Now repeal DADT, muthafucka!

More news from Uganda

Posted in Activism, Gender Issues, Legal, LGBT Rights, News, Politics and Sex with tags , , , , , , , , on January 5, 2010 by girlonpiano

“American Evangelicals are apparently shocked that their anti-gay activism in Uganda — which mostly involves telling Ugandans that gay men sodomize boys and that homosexuals have a nefarious plot to destroy society as we know it — has actually been taken seriously by Ugandans, who, in order to stop purported child rape and total social annihilation, have bandied about the idea of executing gay people.” Read the rest of the story at Femeniste

If you didn’t already watch it, check out our earlier posts, including this one with Rachel Maddow.

Boy suspended from school for long hair

Posted in Gender Issues, News with tags , , , , , , , on December 17, 2009 by Chase

4 year old Taylor Pugh from Balch Springs, Texas recieved four weeks of in-school suspension after refusing to cut his hair to align with school district standards that a boy’s hair “cannot extend below the bottom of earlobes or over the collar of a dress shirt.” With the support of his parents, Taylor continues to grow out his hair, which he plans to eventually donate to charity. Read more

So because he has long hair, he has to be isolated from the other students. Seems like this school district is more interested in preserving dress codes and gender norms than providing constructive education.

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